I’ve always been able to draw laughter out of people in one way or another. BOOGER. I love that.
I’ve never had a fear of speaking in public. I really love that.
I’ve always thought I had particularly nice feet even though they’re really big. I like them too.
I’ve learned to love my ability to work. I didn’t know I had it in me until now.
I’ve come to appreciate my ability to love unconditionally. I didn’t know I could until my children were born.
I’m learning every day to love my body for the miracle it is. I wish I would have seen it sooner.
I’m focused on never telling myself I can’t do something. Every day I work on removing “can’t” from my vocabulary.
I am constantly working toward loving my physical appearance. Every day I see something new.
I want to learn to LIVE every day. Today I am living.
How are you and GUILT?
Does this resonate with you?
- I NEED to work out cause I ate too much today
- I can’t believe that you would do that, now you must not eat tomorrow
- I feel so bad, I can’t believe that you let yourself go
- You’re NEVER gonna get to your goal weight
- You’re such a failure
All of those ran through my head. What’s interesting is that the closer I got to my ‘goal’ weight the more the guilt festered in my mind. It was the all consuming force that would drive me into bingeing more, ‘starting over’ tomorrow, and bawling my eyes out as I fell asleep stuffed.
Guilt is the most important thing that I had to let go in my journey in over-coming my negative relationship with food. I believe that guilt is the thing which feeds the abusive cycles that we have with things. Be it food, relationships, exercise, body image, self-esteem, etc. It tells you that you’re not worthy and trying to over-come the level of guilt that I used to throw at myself was insurmountable on most days.
- Let it go: ‘Yep I screwed up and ate to much, but I am not going to fed the guilt’
- Breathe: Many times in the middle of what could become a binge, I have learned to stop and take 10 deep breathes
- Personal First Aid Kit
- Identify your emotions: What is causing this ‘need’ for food/maintenance of a relationship/laziness?
- Make small mini-goals: Instead of trying for the whole week, for example binge-free, try for one meal. Be totally relastic with only focusing on 1-2 goals per week.
- Success Journal: write down your daily success. could be something someone said, how you felt, how you listened to your body, walked for 10 minutes, stood up for yourself. No matter how big, or small.
Have you struggled with guilt, and over-came it?
Do you struggle?
How does/Has guilt play(ed) a role in your life?