Working a Negative ‘tude

A Self-Love reflection from Donna

I love…

  • First light in the morning
  • Breathing fresh air
  • The sound of waves crashing on the shore
  • Beach sand between my toes
  • Empty desert landscapes


  • Clear, unbroken, blue sky horizons
  • Movement
  • Being able to swim, bike and run
  • Laughing when it all gets too much
  • My absolute determination and willpower
  • Being at peace with myself
  • Putting it all into perspective
  • A hug, a hand squeeze, a pat on a shoulder – showing that you care, showing you that I care…
  • Breathing deeply
  • Unexpected colours at sunset
  • Shades of violet
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  • The smell of night blooming jasmine
  • Life…

I thought I would approach this by trying to show, through a stream of consciousness, what I love and what I love about me. I would describe myself as observant, emotional, determined, and sensitive. When I thought about your February challenge, I found myself surrounded by images, sensations, emotions – but not words.

Ever have days when you just can’t get out of a negative frame of mind?

Well, today has been one of those days. I didn’t get enough sleep last night..due to that fact that I am living with about 80, 18 year old students who are legal to drink in Australia. Needless to say I was banging on doors at 1:30am because it was SO loud and noisy that I had to intervene.

I am a perfectionist who doesn’t like change and/or being the ‘fun police’. To be honest it’s hard where I am working at times, because it’s in the middle of a major culture shift, as well as trying to buck the culture within Australia of drinking. I know that drinking is an issue in America, I get that. I am not pointing the finger to Oz. However, if you come to Oz, you’ll notice that drinking is a VERY acceptable form of socialisation.

Alcohol is to an Australian, as sugar is to an American.

I am finding that there’s TOO MUCH to change where I am working, and it’s burning me out. I have a pattern of this. Work, work, work until I completely neglect myself. Stew on ALL of the negative things that are wrong and lose track of the things which are going well. Ever feel this way?

I also struggle at times with change. I don’t know anyone here and frankly making friends with 18 year olds is SO beyond me, I can’t even begin to explain.

What I have decided is the following

  • Control what I can change
  • Let go of things I can’t
  • DO NOT make work my life
  • Keep eating healthy

I made myself go to the gym. I circled the cardio machines, walked around like a lunatic and then said Michelle, I don’t care if you don’t do a routine, but you need to be moving for 25 minutes. So I just bounced around from doing squats, arms, abs, legs, planks. I didn’t have a method to my madness…except to move.

Do you ever get in a negative funk? How does it impact you? How do you get out of it?


10 thoughts on “Working a Negative ‘tude

  1. Marisa (Loser for Life) says:

    Wow M, you are dealing with a lot!

    I think we all fall into the negative trap at times. sometimes, it’s good to vent and get things out. And what matters is you get it out and move on. I like your decisions on how to manage it and I’m a big believer in “Thoughts become things, choose the good ones”. It’s hard to do at times, but it definitely is better for your mental and physical health!

    Take care of YOU, Nurse M, or you won’t be able to take care of anyone else 🙂

  2. christie @ honoring health says:

    I am in a funk right now but I don’t know that it is negative. It feels more reflective but I don’t know what I am reflecting on. Does that make sense.

    I get in funk all the time, honestly. Especially when my self care is in the toilet. One of the things that helps me move forward is one of my meditation cds. It seems to unblock whatever energy is stuck in there. Sometimes it takes listening once and sometimes it takes listening a few times.

  3. John says:

    I find I usually get out of it by letting it out. You do it by blogging, I do it by telling every customer I deliver to that day. If it’s on the golf course I let it out with as many “French” words as necessary 🙂

  4. megzzwinsatlife says:

    I get in funks all the time.. My mom is usually the one who is like, “megan, you’re in a funk. GET OUT OF IT”. Usually after some self-reflection, a kick ass workout and a day of shopping I am a new women again!!

  5. love2eatinpa says:

    i have to go with the crowd here, EVERYONE gets in funks. i think they happen more to women because we have the hormones to deal with. the trick is to realize that you are in one and then to take steps to pull yourself out.
    i think they are a natural part of life and often we can learn a lot about ourselves during these times.

  6. Lisa says:

    I sure do! And it is not fun 😦 Often heading out for a run, or a yoga class, can really help my mood. Exercise = happy Lisa apparently 🙂

  7. Shannon Fab Fattie says:

    Funks suck I cannot say any different, sorry 😦
    I can’t even imagine the anxiety this must cause for you.
    The quote I sent you on twitter is the best advice I can give and you do have an action plan that will work so do your best to stick to it.
    I am ALWAYS here for you. I consider you a dear friend and anytime you need to vent hit me up.
    Personally I would buy a air soft gun and just start shooting those inconsiderate little 18 year olds, but thats just me 🙂
    Earplugs? Make sure you keep working out NO MATTER WHAT! That is the best funk-breaker I have found. Keep in mind that time flies (hopefully very fast)
    Love Ya!

  8. louisianagrown says:

    You know, out of 80 18 year olds, at least a handle of them have got to be mature, good people. I wouldn’t automatically assume that you’re beyond making friends with them. Friends can crop up in the most unexpected of places.

  9. missyrayn says:

    I’ve been in a negative funk this week because of some events with work that were out of my control. I try to remind myself that God has a reason for it even if I don’t see it now or even for the immediate future.

    And to help in the mean time I try to get more sleep, exercise and time with friends.

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