A Threesome with Mrs.Fatass

A Self-Love reflection from Mrs.Fatass

Okay. Leave it to MrsFatss to turn this cool idea into something raunchy and blue, but part of what Self-Love means to me right now is, well, sex. I’ve been fat and I’ve been fit, and my libido ebbs and flows accordingly. There have been periods of time when I had absolutely zero interest in sex, much to Trophy Husband’s chagrin, and it really had nothing to do with the love or affection I felt for my man – but it had everything to do with my love and affection for me. I mean, I didn’t even want to have sex with myself! So that’s major.

It’s no good to forget how wonderfully important sex is, whether it be on your own or with a partner. To deprive oneself of this most basic and instinctual pleasure most certainly affects other issues and insecurities. At least it does for me. The demons are scarier, the curves look bigger, I see the flaws before I see the beauty. But really, who’s going to love me if I don’t love myself? Like, in that private way? It should be no less a priority than giving up diet soda or hitting the gym a couple of times a week. So I’m all for embracing whatever it is that turns you on – man or woman, plastic or flesh, story or movie or just the most powerful stimulant of all – your own imagination, and get to it. Love yourself.

When I wrote her regarding the Self-Love response proposal, her words above impacted me, because sex is such an interesting thing when you’re losing weight/changing body image etc. I shall endeavour to write about that more later for myself.

However, Mrs.Fatass was keen when I proposed a Threesome and her husband was lucky enough to be the chosen man ;). I sent her a list of questions and here are both of their responses.

If you’ve lost weight, gained weight, changed body image—how has this impacted your intimate life?

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10 thoughts on “A Threesome with Mrs.Fatass

  1. love2eatinpa says:

    very interesting topic! i feel good about how my body looks/feels now that i’ve lost the weight. however, my libidio has not changed a bit. i think it’s more a kid/responsibility issue for me. before kids – big libidio, after kids – low libido. poor hubby!

  2. missyrayn says:

    Yes it does affect it. I was insecure when I was fat so I didn’t want anyone to touch me. And still on my “Fat” days I don’t want to be touched. But my healthy life makes me more excited. And after the gym I’m in a much “happier” mood to enjoy my husband.

  3. Kara (@ Kara's Marathon) says:

    What an amazingly honest and candid post! The husband and I have talked about this stuff at length too (most often when I’m not in the mood b/c I’m horribly self-conscious about my size), but I don’t know if I would ever have the courage to share this part of my journey with the world.

    Oh, and Mrs.Fatass, you are gorgeous!

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