The other week, I was thinking checking out to see how as linked through my blog and I came across a comment form Hollie. I went and read her blog and KNEW that I had to ask people to write about ‘Me, My Family & Food’. For many, the core issue is how their family has impacted them in their dieting/food/body image issues etc.. I know that it has mine.
More though, this week is about highlighting not only stories of people dealing with family and food…but also how their current changes are impacting those around them. I hope that this mini-series begins to open up some doors from your past, unwind some old belief patterns and make you aware that indeed you can impact those around you.
How I Impact My Kids: ‘Do as I say, not as I do…” ~Hollie@Skinny Hollie
Up until a few weeks ago, that was my philosophy when it came to teaching my kids about what to eat and how to be active. In theory, I “know” how to eat right and exercise, but in practice… well, I need work! I don’t always set the best example…
I TELL my kids that sugar is bad for you, but I binge on candy and donuts in front of them.
I TELL my kids that they need to drink more water, but I drink soda or iced tea.
I TELL my kids to get outside and play because exercise is good for them, but they see me sitting on the couch with my laptop when I have free time.
What am I REALLY teaching them?
How do MY choices impact them?
My oldest daughter, who is 12, is overweight. Over the past few months, I have noticed that she is just getting bigger and bigger. She is so beautiful, and it pains me to see her go down a road that will cause her pain and hurt, and will most likely lead to health problems in the future. Recently, we were in the mall and my children (I have three of ‘em!) wanted to jump on a bungee – type thing. The weight limit was 200 lbs, and when the man made my daughter weigh-in because he knew she might be close, she came in at 199.5 lbs. It was like cold water being splashed in my face.
I did this to her. Yes, I tell her to eat healthy food. I limit her portions and monitor what she eats at home. But watching ME make poor food choices and live a sedentary lifestyle for so many years had set such a bad example. Even over the last five years where I have been making a conscious effort to eat better and lose weight, she has still watched me binge on bad food and fail at diet after diet. I had to make a choice… do I want to continue set a bad example, or do I want to teach ALL of my children healthy habits that will last a lifetime? I choose health!
I have transformed my kitchen. All processed food and unhealthy snacks (chips, candy, cookies, etc) are no longer a temptation because they aren’t there! I make well-balanced meals at home so there is no need to go through the drive-thru. On busy nights, we are now having sandwiches or something else quick we can make at home. Instead of Pop-tarts, my children now snack on fruit. And the most major change in our house is that instead of eating school lunch, we are ALL now packing our own healthy lunch from home! And guess what? My children LOVE these changes! They love going with me to the grocery and choosing healthy foods.
It’s amazing how much energy they have now. They all are performing better at soccer. We have been walking and riding our bikes together in the evenings. Small changes are making an amazing impact on my family. These changes are not only helping all of us become healthy, but will ultimately help me in my own weight loss struggles. I am not just accountable to myself, but accountable to the three people that matter the most in my life, my kids!
I can lead my children in the direction of health, or I can lead them to a life of obesity. I want my impact to be positive. It is up to ME to make the changes and to set the RIGHT example. One step at a time…
What are you thoughts? How do you raise your kids? How do your eating habits impact those little ones around you?