I remember going through the book store and being intrigued by this book written by Ariel Levy
The colour, the ‘girl’ and the TITLE. Epic..to be honest. I read it about 1 year ago and have referenced it before because I think it has so many grains of truth in it that one post won’t do it justice. I don’t like to get on soap boxes much…unless it’s about me not hounring my body because frankly we all are entitled to opinions.
BUT COME ON WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What the HELL are we doing to ourselves?
Miss America talking about her dehydration techniques, diet of egg whites, and how she can finally eat carbs and pizza
Seven year olds dancing like hoochies (granted they CAN dance)
Tiaras and Toddlers
where does it end?
My Grandmother is from a generation of women that could barely get out of high school before getting married. Now to go to college/university to pursue something beyond their duties (of which I am not going to bash). However, the feminism movement on many levels FOUGHT for OUR rights to equality of education, treatment, wage, rights, humanity.
Granted, and I am not going to argue the level of this equality that has or hasn’t been given, but I think that WOMEN are ROBBING themselves of this hard fought mission of our fore-mothers.
We as women have created a culture of over-sexualised, de-intellectualized, ‘perfect’ images that feed into the minds of the innocent, old, young, middle-aged, single, college bound, newly wed, wed forever WOMEN. We as WOMEN pour our hearts, money, blogs, sanity, identity into capatalising (in so MANY ways) upon the ‘trashy’ culture that we have created for ourselves. We are ‘equal’ to men on many levels and yet we still feel the need to put effort into this crap.
As Ariel Levy writes (pg 44)
Raunch culture feels perhaps the most alien to aging hippie like my parents–they are all for free love, but none if this looks loving to them; it looks scary, louche, incomprehensible.
My Grandma, my Mom, my aunts didn’t fight so that I could identify and/or live in a culture of Women who embraced raunch. I am NOT saying that you do and I know that I am ‘preaching to the choir’ on this one.
We can’t sit back and blame
Kids these days
It’s US, RIGHT NOW, who have the choice every single day to choose the road which doesn’t overtly sexualise ourselves and makes all ALL of that has been fought for to ensure our equality based upon an outward appearance that someone else thinks is important.
And, in a way, the emergence of a women-backed trash culture is a rebellion against the values of feminism, egalitarianism, and antimaterialism.
No longer do we celebrate women for the accomplishments only…they need to look good.
No longer do we embrace women who decide to have families…they need to be ‘yummy mommies’
No longer do we let little girls dance because they want to dance…they need to dance like Beyonce
No longer do we have beauty pageants with curvy women…they need to starve themselves
No longer do we as a culture of women support each other…we nit-pick every imperfection
It makes my blood boil hotter then the intensity of a thousand blazing suns. I can’t stand it and it wants to make me puke. We point our finger at everyone else, whilst we buy into the perfection crap that is shoved in our faces by WOMEN models, magazine editors, clothing designers, casting agents, celebrities, paparazzi, music execs and our own mental games. It’s WOMEN who have to lead this change..and it starts…WITH YOU.
Passion isn’t the point. The glossy, overheated thumping of sexuality in our culture is less about connection than consumption. Hotness has become our cultural currency, and a lot of people spend a lot of time and a lot of regular, green currency trying to acquire it. Hotness is not the same things as beauty, which has been valued throughout history. Hot can mean popular. Hot can mean talked about. But when it pertains to women, hot means two things in particular: fuckable and salable. (pg. 31)
I do NOT want you to think that I am advising that following
Throwing yourself away and just saying F-it…I don’t care
Not taking care of your health
Not feeling your best and looking your best
Shutting your soul down
Losing your spirit
Taking pride in who you are, how you look and how you carry yourself
What I am saying is that if we continue to engage in behaviour as women where we dumb-down the intellectual, human right, equality that was passionately fought for us…so that we can look hot, fit in with the boys and be an object…then we have taken away everything that has been given to us.
I now have three little nieces (one just born yesterday)
I don’t want to raise them to be strong, independent, beautiful, individual, feisty women…so that they can toss that aside and tell me that they need bigger boobs.
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