Is Facebook living ‘in the moment’?

I have a Facebook account.

I have a Facebook account that will be de-activated tomorrow for 1.5 weeks.

I find that I spend A LOT of time on FB checking random stuff that I don’t even really need to worry about and many times looking at photos of people who I don’t know.

I get the process that FB enables, and it’s a good social media, catch up with friends, connect with family…especially if you live overseas.

However, for me, it’s a HUGE time waster. MASSIVE. It’s VERY easy for me to spend HOURS at a time checking FB, google reader, cnn.com, people.com, thesuperficial.com, my g-mail account and chat online. Hours.

I know that socialising in online mediums is important. I mean people have found love through it (like her, and her) But the point that I have been mulling over is all of this ‘socialising’…is it enabling me to live in the moment?

So many times people un-plug from the internet and come back refreshed. Why is that?

I don’t know. But I have had some major personal stuff happen in the past couple of weeks that have thrown pretty much everything on the teetering line of a major fork in the road. And I have realised that perhaps…just perhaps I haven’t been living my life in the most present state that I can.

I am NOT nay-saying online social media. People become experts, have movies made after them, make it their job.

However, what I am beginning to ask myself: Do I know that people around me? The ones next door. The ones I eat every single meal with? My good friends? Do I miss out on going out because I have screwed away too many hours online?

I think it’s finding balance, but I am excited to not have FB for 1.5 weeks. I am excited to wake-up in the morning and instead of checking my iPhone for my newest FB comments…I’ll be able to just relish the state between reality and dream world.

You, what are you thoughts? Are you a FB addict? Do you set limits? Can you waste hours online?

~Mish
Harnessing Back My Intuitive Habit-Formed facebook.com routine.

13 thoughts on “Is Facebook living ‘in the moment’?

  1. missyrayn says:

    I used to be addicted to facebook and a message board and a lot. But I’ve scaled back and I have started doing things I used to enjoy more. Like reading and quilting and biking and just getting away from the computer. It is hard but it has made my life better.

  2. Christie {Honoring Health} says:

    I’ve been thinking a lot about completely un-plugging for at least one day per weekend. No clients, no online time, no blackberry, just me, my husband and cats and whatever we want to do. It hit me this past week when I started doing my full time job commute in silence. I commute a good portion of my day and could feel my body and mind needing the silence. A real sign that I am plugged in to my external life too often and not my present life enough.

    Great post.

  3. BrookeNotOnADiet says:

    I’m horribly addicted to Facebook, Twitter, and my Google Reader. I find myself checking them way more often than any human being should.

    I do find that when I’m participating in life though, I don’t check it as often. Which is nice.

    I have considered unplugging myself. And I will be doing it soon. I need too.

    Life is more than my BlackBerry.

    Good luck! Can’t wait to hear how living life goes for you!

  4. Karena says:

    Good one! I am NOT on Facebook. But mostly because I don’t want my mother and other family members intersecting with my *real*, unscripted life that happens on my blog and on Twitter.

    You are right — it IS about finding balance. My online-life crosses into real life, like meeting up with good friends next January in Orlando to complete a marathon. But I try to keep a lid on that, friending only people I think I would actually like to know in real life. And, honestly? There are some details about my life that I’d like *IRL* (ie. back home) friends NOT to know.

  5. Tami says:

    I don’t get caught up in facebook but blogging and reading blogs and leaving comments takes a ton of time!

    I was thinking the other day about what I use to do with the time I now spend blogging. I am not missing out on social events with family and friends but I am not reading books or magazines anymore! I am not sure that is a good thing.

  6. Amy says:

    I used to be addicted to everything internet… reading blogs, facebook, email etc… but then I got rid of internet on my phone and poof! Addiction gone! I hate sitting on my laptop all day, but having the alerts on my phone? OMG.

  7. Starfire says:

    I don’t tend to spend a lot of time on Facebook, but I do use Twitter quite a bit; and go through phases of spending a lot of time on LiveJournal.

    There was a point where I was posting to LJ 3-4 times a day; and spending the vast majority of my online time catching up on my friends pages and reading fic. This year, I’ve been spending a lot less time online generally – I’m still there, but it’s taking up less of my life, which can only be a good thing

  8. Mad Woman says:

    I used to spend a lot of time on Facebook. I still spend a lot of time on Facebook. But I have started to really limit it. I found I was spending far too much time on there that I could have spent exercising or with my children. It’s a time suck for sure. Enjoy the time out!

  9. Beverlee says:

    Mich –

    I miss your facebook account! I went for a long hike yesteday to beautiful waterfalls and on top of a mountain. The whole time I was thinking about your post of the “You don’t know Jack” blog and when I went home I wanted to bookmark it. Alas, you had deactivated your FB acct. I have tried to google and can’t come up with it. Pls send me an email. Oh, and I am so glad the cat/margarita incident is a fond memory! Love you lots!!! xoxoxo

  10. Katie @ Health for the Whole Self says:

    I think you’re touching on something really important here. I really do fear that the way we’re now able to constantly be “connected” or “plugged in” is actually making us MORE isolated. I’m not huge into facebook, but I can go a whole evening sitting on the couch reading blogs. Some nights I look at my husband and realize that even though we’ve been in the same room for hours, we’ve barely talked and definitely haven’t connected! So I think it’s really important to step away from all of the social media sometimes and make sure that our in-person connections are flourishing.

    • Mish says:

      I was talking about this with a friend…our facebook/twitter/blogs are what people used to do on the porch over cups of ice tea while their kids played b-ball out on the street. I crave that…I hope that I find that.

  11. Astrid says:

    I nodded all the way through reading this post!! I have cut right back on my use of facebook compared to when my son was a baby, but I still waste too much time on there!

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