The voice that tells you that you can..or that you can’t.
The voice that tells you that you’re worth it…or not
The voice that is in your control…or not
I like to think of the Mental Chatter as Tantrums. These tantrums are alleviated by instant positive reinforcement for negative behaviour—> Reinforcing negative behaviour, with the generalised outcome that it will continue to increase. This is what parent’s do when they give the toy to the screaming toddler.
So the switch becomes for me in learning how to STOP reinforcing the often negative mental chatter in my mind.
What I have learned, in my week of being switched onto my body are these three things:
- Mental chatter is always going to be there…it’s how you decided to engage with it.
- Mental chatter has NOTHING to do with what your body signals are…it doesn’t respect your body, it doesn’t work with your body, and it doesn’t care about your body.
- Mental chatter needs to be silenced acknowledge, but not fed into, by a conscious effort to listen, tap into, and adhere to the notion of respecting your body.
Example (because I like examples..they make things easier for me)
I got to the cafeteria and everything there is crap. French Fries, chicken wings, frozen veggies, bread, cereal…CRAP.
I then have a huge decision…
Do I stop and ask my body what it wants?
I got some salad, a couple french fries and sat down.
I was starving still.
So I got a small bowl of cereal with soy milk and banana.
Then the mental chatter starts again ‘come on a piece of toast with peanut butter and jelly.’
I listen to it.
I almost cave in
Then I tapped into my body: Am I honestly hungry enough for that?
grab an orange, walk out and go back to my room.
I share this with you because for many of us, including myself, I always think to myself..HOW THE HELL DO PEOPLE INTUITIVELY EAT? How do they process the mental chatter?
I don’t think it’s easy, because for so long we have had many mental tantrums going on in our head. I believe that we try to silence them with diets/rules/over-eating. We often times just don’t let them throw their tantrum and walk away. Instead we try to yell at, punish, deprive, and/or over-feed them.
So I ask you, how do you deal with your mental tantrums/mental chatter?